A husband-wife team teams up

My wife is putting our son to bed, so I have a little time tonight to tell you about our anniversary celebration today.  Again, thanks to everyone who posted an anniversary suggestion.  You gave me some great ideas for future anniversary celebrations.  This year we did not buy each other any gifts.  Instead, we gave each other the gift of time.  I took the day off, and we left our son with the nanny for the day and ventured out to celebrate our anniversary as a couple.  We went hiking at Bukhansan National Park located just north of Seoul.  When I told my boss that we were going hiking for our anniiversary, he thought the idea was a bit odd.  Perhaps so, but then again, we aren’t a conventional couple.  Hiking is one of our favorite joys in life.  We love to travel and hike wherever we go.  Our all-time favorite "hike" was Cinque Terre, Italy, followed by Maui, Hawaii.  (Cinque Terre is a group of traditional Italian villages about an hour north of Pisa along the Meditteranean Sea.  If you have ever been to Cinque Terre, you will probably agree that it is truly breathtaking.)  I posted photos of both our Bukhansan National Park and Myeongdong trip in the photos section.  A reader mentioned that I should post more photos of Koreans, so I tried to take more photos with people this time.  People are key to understanding any culture. 
 
We left home at about 11 a.m. this morning.  We took the subway to Dobongsan Station on Line 1 and Line 7.  Dobongsan is situated in the far northern reaches of Seoul and borders the north end of Bukhansan National Park.  A mere 78 square kilometers, according to Lonely Planet, Bukhansan is a gem a place in greater Seoul.  The park’s granite peaks are beautiful, and the park is just a 40-minute subway ride from downtown Seoul.  Lonely Planet offered far too few details about the park in its Korea guidebook.  The book mentioned Dobongsan in just one sentence, highlighting a glaring shortcoming of the world’s most famous guidebook.  Lonely Planet is great for backpacking, short-term tourists, and those on a shoestring budget, but I find that Lonely Planet guides lack depth and do not meet the expectations of expatriates.  Anyway, my wife and I walked about 15 minutes from the station to the park entrance.  The entrance located at the end of the first street to the left of the station.  The park entrance is surrounded by dozens of restaurants and hiking equipment/clothing stores.  Bodongsan features a number of tofu restaurants, seafood restaurants, beer tents, and REI-style shops.  It’s a great place for hikers to go before or after their hike in the park.
 
We decided beforehand not to overly exert ourselves hiking.  He haven’t hiked for awhile, and today is a weekday.  We will head to Pusan soon and need to save our energy.  The hike began easily enough; the paved and cobblestone path gradually ascended into the park next to a beautiful stream with cascading waterfalls.  Along the way, we passed a Buddhist temple and saw Koreans relaxing near the stream.  Equipment vendors hawked outdoor gear and Buddhist paraphenelia, and a saxophonist played a pretty song that wafted through the valley.  The weather was beautiful again today, making the hike a pleasant one.  We hiked along the stream for about half an hour.  When the pavement ended and the natural path began, it split into two branches.  We took the left branch and headed towards Ulum Rock.  The ascent was relatively steep, perhaps a three out of five on the hiker’s scale.  The path was well worn and friendly.  We made it to the apex of the loop path we hiked and took photos of the mountains and the Seoul cityscape.  We then descended and arrived back at the park entrance about an hour later.  We did not try to hike up to Ulum Rock today.  Korean hikers told us we had the wrong kinds of shoes.  (I wore Teva sandals, and my wife wore casual shoes.  Koreans are quick to notice footwear.  When I was in Seoraksan, a man on the mountain wearing dress shoes told me my Teva sandals were inadequate for hiking.  I laughed to myself.)  Our anniversary journey in Bukhansan National Park lasted about three hours.  Upon returning to the park entrance, we rested at an outdoor cafe. 
 
Later, we took the subway to Myeongdong, a famous shopping district in Seoul.  It is trendy and happening, one of many places in Seoul where Korean youths rule.  We ate our anniversary dinner at The Taj, a delicious Indian restaurant.  We also shopped a bit, and I observed the throngs of people in Myeongdong.  I saw very few foreigners, perhaps a handful, at either Bukhansan or Myeongdong.  I wore a Hawaiian shirt today, and I was a very obvious misfit in both locales.  The Koreans at Dobongsan generally wore hiking gear that left the impression that they are avid hikers.  None wore sandals and a shirt like I did.  In Myeongdong, trendy Koreans wore the latest fashions.  Hawaiian shirts are not in style, apparently!  I was a bit surprised to find that even in trendy Myeongdong, there are barbershops that offer "other" services.  In Korea, one barbershop pole indicates you can get a haircut and a platonic massage.  A double barbershop pole means that for an additional price you can receive sexual services (see photos in Myeongdong album).  Barbershops and karaoke establishments are everywhere in Korea, and some are fronts for illicit services.  It is one of the aspects of Korean society that most folks here know about but rarely discuss.
 
My wife and I make a great team.  We complement one another well.  She tends to be strong where I am weak, and vice versa.  Today’s anniversary journey was a test of our ability to work as a team.  My wife suggested hiking at Bukhansan, and I located Dobongsan and guided us there.  We helped each other all along the hike.  For example, we saw the Korean word "bong" everywhere and wondered what it meant.  I saw a map and guessed that it meant "peak," and she corroborated that assumption by pointing out that "bong" is related to the Chinese word for "peak," or "feng."  We are a great team, and I’m glad that we have been a team that has lasted for better or for worse, richer and poorer, through sickness and health.

Livin’ la vida domesticada

Today was a great day, one of nicest we have had since we arrived here.  The weather in Seoul was absolutely gorgeous.  It was sunny and mild.  The heavy rains and flashing flooding from the night before washed away the grit of the city, making it clean and crisp.  I called my father to wish him an early happy birthday.  He will be 60 years old this year according to the solar calendar.  In Korea, a person’s 60th birthday, or hwan-gap (환갑), is a significant milestone in one’s life.  60 years represents longevity and signifies that a person has lived long enough to experience five complete cycles of the Zodiac.  (The Korean Zodiac is based on the Chinese Zodiac, which last 12 years with each year represented by an animal.)  Unfortunately, my father is not too excited about celebrating his 60th birthday.  He does not even want a birthday party or birthday gifts.  That’s too bad.  Even if I were there to celebrate it, it would not be much of a celebration.  I can’t blame him, because I too am not very excited about celebrating my own birthday.  After the age of 30, birthdays tend to mean that you’re one year older and closer to the end of your life.  The lack of enthusiasm for growing a year older must run in the family.
 
After I called my father, my family went for lunch and grocery shopping.  In early afternoon, I mowed the lawn, and I weeded the flower beds in front of the house.  Mundane, I know, but I still enjoyed it.  I don’t mind short-term projects such as yard work.  I haven’t had much time to do yard work lately, so our lawn and flower beds were embarassingly overgrown.  My neighbors’ homes are generally well manicured, so our yard appeared conspicuously neglected.  My wife pruned back the flowers, and I weeded.  My son even helped out by watering the gardens for his mom.  He was a good boy today. 
 
Tonight we hosted a dinner for my wife’s future boss and his girlfriend.  The man who helped her find her new job and his fiancee also joined us.  I had to go to the store twice for food items we forgot to buy for tonight’s dinner, so I was not able to finish mowing the backyard.  We also started late preparing dinner.  I was still grilling by the time the guests arrived.  I grilled steaks, Korean-style short ribs (galbi), vegetable skewers, and hamburgers.  Our son was taking a nap when our guests arrived, and the commotion woke him up prematurely.  As a result, he was very cranky.  My wife was at wit’s end trying to prepare the dinner, greet guests, and take care of our son.  I was too busy grilling to help inside the house.  The situation was quite stressful for both of us until I finished grilling.  After that, I took my son off my wife’s hands, gave her the grill food, and took my son to the playground.  My wife and our guests started dinner without me.  It’s the first time I’ve been late to a dinner party she we arrived in Seoul.  It was worth it, though.  Going to the playground cheered up my son, and after that he was fine.  I played with him for almost two hours and didn’t join our guests for dinner until about 8 p.m.  I would have liked to have spent more time with our guests, but I knew that I needed to take care of my son so that my wife could entertain her future boss and the one who helped her find her new job.  My wife promised that one of these nights I can have a night out of my own.  For now, I look forward to taking a day off to enjoy our anniversary and spending the rest of the week in Pusan with my family.

Anniversary gift ideas?

I wouldn’t dare write about spiders and my upcoming anniversary in the same blog entry, so I’ll post two entries tonight.  I need your help, Dear Reader.  I need your great gift ideas!  Next week is my wedding anniversary.  Last year’s anniversary gifts will be hard to beat, but I want to try.  It has to be something more than taking her out for dinner.  We talked about going for dinner at Seoul Tower overlooking the city, but I hear that the food isn’t so good.  (Is the food at observatory deck restaurants ever delicious?) 
 
Last year, in honor of our tenth anniversary, I took my wife to Chez François L’Auberge in Great Falls, Virginia, one of the finest French restaurants in the Washington, D.C. area.  I gave her a brand-new wedding ring, long-stemmed roses, and I wrote a small book for her.  Our anniversary book featured our love story, a collection of family words and phrases (you know, those cute pet sayings couples say to each other), and all the songs I used to sing to my son when he was younger.  I think I exhausted what was left of my creativity on those gfts.  I used to be good at coming up with gift giving ideas, but lately reality has dimmed my sense of creativity.  I need your help.  Please post some gift ideas for me!  Thanks, I appreciate it.  By the way, if you’re in the Washington, D.C. area, I highly recommend having dinner at Chez François L’Auberge.  The food is manifique, the service is exceptional, and the atmosphere is belle.  Très haute couture.