Batman and Spidey

Last night my son donned his Batman costume and joined his best friend, Michael, who portrayed Spider-man, for a round of neighborhood trick or treating.  They did more treating than tricking, collecting handfuls of candy from our generous neighbors.  Where we live, Halloween festivities are held on the last Saturday evening in October, regardless of whether it falls on October 31st.  Koreans don’t celebrate Halloween, so the date does not matter to them.  Some Korean children enjoy putting on a variety of homemade costumes so they can fill their bags with candy, but it is not a widespread practice here.  Neither my wife nor I are fans of the holiday because of its dark connotations and fattening confectionary exchanges.  I trick-or-treated when I was young, but after my wife and I married, we made it a habit to go out to dinner to avoid the trick-or-treaters.  Now that we have a son, we acknowledge the holiday to the point that we allow our son to wear a costume and collect some candy with his chums.  We’re pragmatic about it–we would rather our son not feel different from his peers for the sake of not observing a holiday we don’t really like.  It would be awkward for him to go to class without a costume when his classmates and teachers are dressed up, and we would have to explain to him why he can’t trick or treat when his friends can do it.  We’d rather let him have some fun, even if  we now have a bag full of candy.  Mom and dad will probably covertly munch on a few to make sure they’re safe to eat. 
 
Tonight I carved a Jack-o-lantern with my son, just like we did last year.  Last year we carved Oliver, one of the Thomas-the-Tank-Engine trains.  This year, my son wanted me to carve it into Spider-man.  He wanted to dress up for Halloween as the Green Goblin, Spider-man’s nemesis from the first Spider-man film, but we talked him out of it.  After his friend Michael decided to be Spider-man, he decided to carve his pumpkin in Spider-man’s likeness.  Next year, in Paraguay, he wants to dress up as Superman.  Last year he was Thomas the Tank Engine.  What a difference a year makes.
 
Tonight’s topic got me wondering about a mystery of life–why do some comic book superheroes and archvillians become popular, and some don’t?  Batman and Spider-man, along with Superman, are the three most popular superheroes in comic book lore.  Between them, the three characters have spawned hundreds of comic books and almost a dozen movies.  What happened to other superheroes and villians from the animal world, including Snakeman, Mansquito (Mosquito Man), and Sharkman?  It seems that some of the most popular superheroes and villians, such as Wolverine, are based on creatures from the animal kingdom that create fear and wonderment among us humans.  Why aren’t other creatures (or pests) who create fear in humans popular comic book characters?  Why aren’t there heroes or villains such as Pigeon Man, the bird poo slinger, or Yellow Jacket Man, who ruins backyard barbeques, or Pit Bull Man, who grabs bad guys and won’t let go?  They would be really cool.  The characters could be females, but I would not wish it on any woman to be one of those superheroes or villains.  Viral Man to the rescue!

Days getting shorter, time running out

Our time here in Korea is getting shorter and shorter.  In just three months, we will depart the Land of the Morning Calm and Daytime Frenzy for the United States.  My wife and I put together a master calendar and started throwing activities on it like darts on a dart board.  Lately we’ve found ourselves saying, "Don’t forget to do that; oh yeah, we really have to have so and so over before we leave."  About three months out from a major move, you find yourself starting to figure out how to do absolutely everything you need or really want to do before you leave.  All else gets cut from the master plan.
 
I’ve been told that we really don’t need to do any move activities until one month before we move, although that is advice I’ve heard from people who subsequently claim to be in a tizzy and running out of time before the big move.  I think it would be better to get it all done earlier and then be absolutely bored for the last two weeks of our stay here in Korea.  That’s not going to happen!  I’ll settle for the middle ground and hope we can get most of it done weeks in advance.  At least this move won’t be as earth-shattering as our first move, when we dismantled our average middle-class suburban life and exchanged it for adventure and expat life that seems eerily similar to the life we had back in suburbia! 
 
Nevertheless, by this time next year we will be in Paraguay, experiencing an entirely new reality.  I love Korea, but I am ready for a change of scenery.  At some point I need to start blogging more about Paraguay and my quest to improve my Spanish.  It seems so far away, even if it is only a few months from now.

Guest blogger: A typical weekend at home

Tonight, I have the honor of posting one of my wife’s excellent blog entries.  Enjoy!

We had a nice quiet weekend, and it was much appreciated by both Mike and me.  

On Saturday morning, our sons week-long cold seemed to be getting worse, so we werent sure whether we should take him to his soccer practice.  In the end, Mike took him there, but he gave our son the choice of just watching from the sideline if he did not feel like playing.  He still joined the practice and, according to Mike, did well.  He is by no means a star on the team, but he followed everyone and had fun.  They came home with three little bags of fruit chews and crackers from the snack time after the soccer practice.  What a treat for a little boy!

While Mike and our son were at soccer practice, I was busy taking our stuff to the thrift shop for consignment.  Because our move from Korea is just three months away, I started to clean out the house.  I consigned a total of 19 items, mostly big and bulky things like a computer chair, a lamp, outdoor toys, children’s fleece outfits and a winter jacket, snow boots, and kitchen items.  It feels really good to get rid of stuff.  All we need to do now is just to collect our check when the items are sold.  It gives you quite a sense of accomplishment when you get your consignment check.  The thrift shop does very good business, as there is a large base of regular customers made up of Koreans and Filipinos who love American things, new or used.  We have been able to sell almost all of our items previously put on consignment.  I also dropped off some toys for donation.  Of course, I cant leave the thrift shop without buying something myself.  For example, I bought our son a Little Tike Lego table for five dollars.

Following consignment, I made my regular visit to the gift shop.  This gift shop is the neatest place.  Its run by the American Forces Spouse Association, and all of its profits go to support American and Korean charities.  The gift shop buyers search different countries in Asia to hunt for treasures and sells them at lower-than-retail prices while still maintaining a mark-up to fund its charity causes.  They carry all kinds of beautiful arts and crafts, furniture, carpets, decorative items, jewelry and clothing from China, Thailand, Japan, Vietnam, and the Philippines, among other countries.  For a person like me who loves to shop, there’s no better place to shop.  After an hour of half there, I came home proudly with two cashmere shawls, two evening purses, and a winter scarf.   

I made a Chinese dish at home for a late lunch.  Since our nanny makes all of our meals during the weekdays, Mike and I miss our own cooking.  I try to squeeze in one or two home-cooked meals during the weekend.  We then all had a long nap so that Mike is well-prepared for his extra work on Saturday night.  He had to go to the airport to pick up a high-level government official who is coming to Korea, and he ended up coming home very, very late.  This type of after-hour work related activities happen quite often for him, voluntarily or not.  It was a great experience for him, though.

While Mike was gone in the evening, my son and I went to the toy store to pick up several toys and get them ready for three birthday parties coming up within the next two weeks.  I made it out of the toy store with just one little puzzle for our son, which I bought for him so that he does not feel too left out while I bought the toys for the other kids.  He is pretty good about that. 

Sunday morning at 5 a.m., my son woke up crying and told me his ear hurt.  He also had a fever, so I immediately knew that his cold had progressed to an ear infection.  I frantically searched for Childrens Motrin in the darkness.  Even though I had definitely seen it lying around the house, I cant find it anywhere the very moment I needed it.  Finally, Mike found some Amoxicillin in the fridge, which our son took last time he had an ear infection, and I also gave our son some Children’s Tylenol.  That put him back to sleep. 

The first thing we did after we all got up on Sunday was to take our son to the Embassy clinic.  Its such a blessing to have a clinic just a few houses down from ours with a nurse is available around-the-clock.  She checked our son and confirmed my assessment, and prescribing him some more Amoxicillin and Childrens Motrin.  All was taken care of–including a nice sticker for our son-in just fifteen minutes.  I had to be thankful we weren’t subjected to the healthcare system in the United States, where we would have had to drag our son to the hospital, wait at urgent care for hours to be seen with other sick kids, run to a pharmacy, and pay a lot of money for this little episode.  At times, we are so spoiled living here.  The nurse here is an angel.

Normally we would go to the church on Sunday mornings, but today we stayed home due to our son’s illness.  By the end of the day, our son asked why we had not gone to church.  Bless his little heart for not wanting to miss church!  Instead, Mike read some Bible stories with him.  On the other hand, it just shows you that our son is a kid who loves routines.  In his world, there are certain things you do every day of the week.  Is this good or bad habit?  We will wait and see.

Needless to say, our son missed a three-oclock birthday party for another child in the neighborhood.  But he had a good rest at home.  We dropped off the birthday present for the child, and guess what.  Our son got a little surprise in return!  He received a nice Curious George Goes to the Ice Cream Shop story book.  Curious George is one of our son’s favorites, and he enjoyed reading the book before his long nap.

On Sunday afternoon, I went to the beauty shop and had a long overdue hair coloring and magic straight perm for my hair.  Hair appointments usually take so long (three hours this time), so I kept postponing it due to busy weekends.  This is the first time I visited this new beauty shop, and I am pleased with the results.  I stopped going to my usual places because for the whole last year I went there, they kept telling me that I cant do this or that for my hair.  They always said no to my own suggestion like certain hair colors or magic straight perms or thinning out my hair.  Hey, its my own hair we are talking about, and I am the one who pays the bill!  I finally got so tired of the nos and broke myself out of the habit of going there.   

Before the weekend was over, I had to accomplish one last must-do activity each weekend–grocery shopping for the following week.  Since the commissary opens till 7 p.m., its impossible for me to go there during the week.  I managed to buy enough food for the week, including tons of Halloween candies.  As trick-or-treats are scarce in Korea, it feels as if the entire country comes to our door on Halloween evening.  Enough is never enough when it comes to Halloween treats. 

Aside from our son’s illness, this is a typical quiet and non-eventful weekend at home.  Our son really does not get sick very often.  We are all rested and ready for the Monday now.

Hubby’s disclaimer:  In case you’re wondering whether I’m some slacker dad who lets my wife do everything on the weekend, I thought I would let you know that I do grocery shopping during weekdays, do a variety of household chores on the weekends, and often take my son during the weekend.  Whenever my son is ill, he tends to prefer being with mommy.  Her comforting spirit is something I cannot match.  Whenever he’s healthy, he loves hanging out with dear old dad.